I haven’t blogged much recently, I’ve been focusing on more productive things, I’ve sat back, I’ve watched people post about their lives daily on social media, I’ve learned that I have no time for some friendships, I’ve learned who is important to me in life and I’ve removed a lot of negative, self centered, fake people from the equation.
Over the last 4 years, I’ve grown, I’ve learned, I’ve listened and if you know me personally, you will know that I’m opinionated but I tend to stay out of drama, I would rather sit in the corner and observe, listen and take in my surroundings but if I feel strongly about something, I will sure as hell let you know. I am an amazing judge of character, I’m not a naturally emotional person. I tend to look at things realistically, I speak the truth and as I get older, I have realized that some people just have no place in my life and I have no time for negativity.
I’ve made a lot of “online friends” since I started this blog, some I have met once or twice, some have remained solely through the internet. You will learn many things from your online friends, some are positively amazing, they will grow with you, they will support you, they will love you like you love them, then, there are the “other ones”.
The Bad Apple
You like and comment occasionally on their social media posts, they don’t ever reciprocate. In fact, they only ever comment on your social media posts and shares when they have something nasty, mean or bitchy to contribute. A little bit of give and take goes a long way, I have an online friend who has known me for over 10 years, we don’t always agree but we don’t get nasty and we know when it’s time to agree to disagree. The Bad apple tends to only care about themselves, they want to feel loved, they will ditch a friend in a heartbeat when they should be supporting them through something. They constantly seek attention, they crave it. Through social media.
The Highschool Cyber Bullies
Online bullying was never a thing when I was growing up, if we had a huge problem with one another we either beat each other up or screamed it out. Cyber Bullying comes in many forms, someone could say you’re ugly, you’re fat, you’re too skinny, all of this bullying is NOT okay. There are other types of cyber bullies, often referred to as “trolls”, a couple of your online friends, maybe 2, maybe 3 or 4 will make snide remarks, insults and belittle one of your other friends because they don’t agree with something said in a social media post. They are like high school bullies. They are weak. They need each other to get their point across and laugh at each other as they try and tear your real friend down. The sad thing is, these are “online” friends, and it takes months, even years to see the bully come out in them. Fortunately, these friends are unimportant and that is when to make use of the block button so your real friends know you are there for them.
The gossip is the friend who looks at and judges your social media posts, they report back to their other friends about something they read on social media. They may even be friends with someone you previously blocked and now think they can act like inspector gadget. No one needs a gossip, this is drama, this is negativity, gossips are the epitomy of fake and basic.
The Offended Friend
This friend tends to get upset very easily, they get offended by literally every post they don’t agree with and they think that you are talking about them or tell themselves that you are being unnecessarily mean, even if it’s a comment where you are throwing in a little joke. I don’t know if what’s happened with the world, but I’ve come across a lot of people who are offended by literally everything. Elderly people I can understand as they were brought up in a completely different generation, I was brought up in the 90s, I have a thick skin and learned to not take everything personally or become offended easily. With that being said, maybe it’s just their personality and they are more than likely a beautiful person, inside and out, but in order to not upset one and other more than you should and bring more negativity into your life and theirs, this is a friendship that should seriously be reconsidered.
The Friend You Have Outgrown
Occasionally you just outgrow a friendship, as sad as it may be, you could be moving onward and upward and they may bring you down or radiate negativity into your life. You may also just be moving in different directions and that’s not always a bad thing but if you feel emotionally or physically drained or sad about what they post on social media, it’s time to move on.